What happens when you call me?
We begin with a complimentary meeting. You are encouraged to tell your story and to describe the images you have of your wedding ceremony. We explore ideas using a sample ceremony outline.
Once we agree that I will perform your ceremony, you will each be asked to fill out a detailed questionnaire. Neither partner should see the other’s answers until both have finished the whole questionnaire. Sometimes the answers are very different; at other times, they’re almost identical. Either way, your responses make up some of the threads that will be woven into your individualized ceremony.
From the questionnaires and our conversations I usually find a theme around which to shape the ceremony. It may be something as simple as “family” or “love of nature,” or it might have something to do with the way you met or what happened during your courtship. This theme helps me in writing the narrative and selecting readings, rituals, perhaps even the vows. Interfaith or intercultural traditions may also enter in.
Incorporating all this with your ideas and wishes, I will write a first-draft “script.” The script will probably travel back and forth several times via e-mail as you offer your comments and edits. We will refine and polish together until everything feels “just right.” This is your unique event, and you have the final say on every word. After your wedding, you will receive an attractive, keepsake copy of the final ceremony script.
If we agree it would be useful, I will attend your rehearsal, though often this is not necessary. On the day of the ceremony, I will arrive early to confer with your DJ or musicians and check in with the members of your wedding party.
Then, I will officiate your ceremony while you and your families take center stage. These are profound moments. You will never forget them.